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Master J at 4 weeks old

Ever since he was 4 weeks old and cried pretty much non stop for a week, I’ve said he’ll be the one who we’re taking to the A&E the most, I can see it now!

I think perhaps I tempted fate.

In the past 2 weeks I have been to the A&E four times. Firstly he fell and split his chin. Personally I wanted him to have stitches, but was told nowadays children don’t have stitches as they wiggle so much and glue is just as good if not better. 4 hours later I was back getting the glue re-applied as he had rubbed it off. I asked for stitches again, he was laying as still as a doorstop for the glue, but no told the same thing. We all know it’s cost cutting.

I huffed and puffed as she put a huge band aid over the glue and I said that will be off before we get to the car! And it was and several hours later so was the glue. So me being me steri-stripped it and did that day and night, he’s teething and constantly wet the glue just didn’t have a chance!

Then on the weekend we went to a friends house, and they have one of those big trampolines with the safety net thing. Jerry loves them. We don’t have one for the simple reason we’re paranoid parents and know accidents happen and there’s enough in the home without adding more. Like I said Jerry loves them and he was on it as soon as we arrived. Once more kids got on we should of got him off, me and my husband both said better get him off, and “look at him, he thinks he’s one of the big kids” but we let him stay on there he was having such a good time.

We both sat facing the trampoline, little while later I hear Jerry screaming and crying and sent my husband to get him, he was holding his arm all funny, I said to my husband. ” I think his arm is broken” and was told “you said that would happen in the car on the way here. I checked him all over asking him where it hurt, but within 5 minutes his tears had stopped and he got back on the trampoline and continued happily bouncing around.

So we though he must of just bumped himself and he was OK.

Sunday came he was holding his arm a little bit, but no bruising and he didn’t complain about any pain.

Monday came and he had, had a very unsettled night, he’s just started sleeping through as well! So I closely watched him for a couple of hours he was barely using his arm, he couldn’t hold any toys with any weight in his and, he couldn’t grab my hand and he couldn’t straighten it.

So I took him to the ER 7 hours we spent there. He was incredibly well behaved and a “big boy” as I am pregnant I couldn’t stay with him in the x-ray he sat there all alone with his arm on the x-ray plate as still as anything for a good 5 minutes for his x-rays. 4 hours later we were sent home with a “nothing is wrong” but no improvement in 2 days bring him back.

Last night my husband and I were beside ourselves with worry he flinched if you touched it, now had a black bruise around it. I contacted a friend who is a DR and asked him his thoughts. And went back to the ER this morning EARLY armed. Actually got asked if I was medically trained LOL

So here’s what happened. Jerry got his x-ray done by someone who does childhood x-rays. They checked it and so did the DR. They saw nothing so sent me home.

Here’s what SHOULD of happened All the above except in the middle a radiologist is meant to check the x-ray and report to the DR, this didn’t happen. Apparently until they think the next day. And their report is saying that the humerus close to the elbow is surrounded in fluid and has significant swelling and bruising. Due to the difficulty of x-rays in small children and the angles the did they can’t see a fracture, but the fluid suggests that there is one at the base of the humerus. Probably a greenstick. He should of been put into a sling, as this is the normal treatment in children and adults. Then as an adult you use it as much as possible rest when needed. Children naturally either use it or don’t. So as he is now using it,no sling and to carry on as normal.

Except my gorgeous boy is left handed.  We can’t afford for him to not have full mobility in that arm. So after placing my concerns onto the DR at the A&E and basically saying I don’t care about “I think it will be OK” I want to see a Paediatric Ortho DR, my wish was granted. After this was organised he went and spoke to a Ortho DR and then came back to me and has said he’ll probably need physio to gain full mobility back into his dominant arm.

I can’t tell you how frustrated I am at the fact I had to return to the A&E to get this information. Nor the fact I have to actually get bossy and say I want a Ortho DR. It’s just stupid in my eyes.

So hopefully all will be fine and in a few months he’ll have full mobility in his arm. In the mean time it’s been great in other ways. Eliza who pushes him away a lot has become a lot more friendly as she “doesn’t want to break his arm” LOL

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Last week the kids and I headed up to London, we were lucky enough to be offered a family ticket to see the lastest Family show in the West End.

The Go! Go! G0! show

Go!Go!Go!

It  was the first time we had headed into London since we moved. So I anticipated a slightly longer journey on the train. As it happened a train pulled into the Station as I got my ticket and within 32 minutes I was at Charing cross. The kids love the train especially the ride in.

We got to Leicester Square an hour earlier than I had planned so we wandered around. I ended up buying water for myself and the kids, who had rapidly gone through their OJ’s and now Jerry was hungry and I was feeling a little lightheaded so we went and bought some Macdonalds, having never actually bought Macdonalds I stood there scanned the menu and saw nothing for kids so had to ask what was on offer.  I’m more of a Burger King person.

We went and sat in the Gardens and looked at the steady stream of people who had started to queue up for the premier of Tom Cruise and Cameron Diaz’s new move of which I should know the name lol.

I headed to the theatre which is just off the actual square. And collected my tickets, they said they would open the doors half an hour before the show started. OK I still had 30 mins to occupy myself we went for ANOTHER walk, but this time Jerry had, HAD enough and lay down in a huge puddle and had a MASSIVE tantrum. Me being me let him take it out on the pavement and then said “you done” I even heard someone say “do you think that’s her child” yeah lady because I am real child snatcher at 33 weeks pregnant huh. GRRR

ANYWAY then it was a mad dash to GAP to buy him some dry clothes. Back to the theatre and this is where it got a little crappy. Like I said I am 33 weeks pregnant. I had both kids with me and the P&T vibe to get into the theatre it’s two flights of stairs down to the theatre.

The kids walked down while I bumped down the stroller. Two staff stood at the bottom and neither of them actually offered to help. So be aware if you are going and going alone take lightest stroller you have. On the way out however they helped me lifted it up the stairs.

We found our seats and sat down, we were very close to the speakers which were on really loudly and the kids were waving their glowsticks £3 which I had bought and looking at their programs also £3.

Then we got told there was a 5 minute delay which turned into 20 minutes by this point. I was a little more than tetchy mainly due to getting in to early and Jerry having epic tantrum, then the “I’m hungry, I’m thirsty” chitter chatter started, this meant a trip to the bar paying a hefty £1.50 for the smallest pringles and the same for water, of course we were all very thirsty and it was warm in there, so take plenty of water and food it you go. I spent at least £15 on just buying us water the entire time and snacks.

The show began and within 10 minutes Eliza was in tears and asking to go home and Jerry was entranced. Eliza isn’t the best with things like this, you can read about our Disney experience earlier this year on my blog.

The cast interact with the children really well and the songs are really, really catchy and fab I really liked them. I was a little surprised when there was an intermission, I had been told the show was 45 minutes long. I really was quite over it , I had Jerry on my knee and Eliza clinging to me for dear life for the first half.

As the curtains closed both kids said one after another “go home now?” I said “well I think not, there is more to watch”. Eliza really looked unhappy and said she felt scared. Jerry was just exceedingly tired.

We sat and ate M&M’s and did more stickers in the programs.

The 2nd half started and I had made a point to both of them that they had to sit in their seats as I am way to fat to cope with both of them hanging off me!

Made all the difference Suddendly I was at the theatre with two different children, Eliza really, really got into it and was dancing and singing despite not knowing any of the words lol and waving her glowstick around frantically and Jerry was of course eating but bouncing up and down wildly in his seat.

It was great, the songs were really good again about sharing and having fun together, and of course the fluffalope was heavily featured.

The second half felt shorter, not sure if it was, or if it was the fact I was able to sit on my own and relax a little.

After it ended the cast come out to the Foyer and meet all the children, this was bizarrely crowded and people were pushing like crazy to get to the Cast who were lovely and polite and tired! I had to explain to Eliza about getting autographs she didn’t and really still doesn’t get what that process was all about, but she had her favourite character and wanted her name written on her book, which sadly she didn’t get but she got most of them.

I can now say three days after the show and neither of them have shut up about the show, Eliza is desperate to go and see it again, both have asked if we can get a fluffalope toy, what about a movie or a CD are there dolls?

They pretend they are in the show and act out little scenes together, it has been a huge hit and I hope they bring out a CD and a DVD of the show because it was great.

I do however think that 2 is the minimum age to take a child to something like this.  There were a few people with younger children and it looked a little tough on them walking around and trying to keep them quiet.

Over all we really enjoyed it. I didn’t plan as well as I should of in regards to timing and drink supplies but the show was fab and I hope if you go you enjoy it as much as we all did.

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Lets go outside

shame about the pylons eh!

Can you see London in the Distance? This is where I live now. In the middle of wheat country it would appear. London is a mere 22 minutes away by train. Oh yes. I can almost smell the smog and the see the suits at the bars on this Friday night.

I drove the kids up here today it’s a huge 1 minute from our house. I said to Eliza “Look at that Lizie” who was to busy eyeing up some horses. “what mummy?” “Isn’t it beautiful” Eliza is looking around, well as much as possible as we are sitting in the car in the middle of a road. I’ve stopped to take pictures.

“What are you talking about mummy?”

“The countryside Lizie, the COUNTRYSIDE, YANNO where we live”

I’m irritated that she doesn’t know exactly what I am talking about she is 4 now!

“Oh yes, she said it is beautiful, is that corn mummy?”

“no I think it’s wheat”

“Is it going to be made into cereal for me?”

“probably”

“LOOK HORSIES!!!!!”

And that was to say the highlight of my day today a 5 minute chat with my daughter in the middle of a road in our new backyard. The rest of my day has been spent with this adorable boy

Hey!

Driving me utterly mental. He looks so sweet there doesn’t he?

He’s teething he’s getting the last 2 or last 4 teeth I don’t know. And he is an shit about it. Cries pretty much all day unless I carry him and do exactly what he says “take me this way mummy, no that way, no I want a cuddle here, no there on the sofa, can I have some milk? Can I have a biscuit, can I go outside?, Can we go for a walk, carry me mummy, can I have booby (yes I’m still breastfeeding, no I don’t feed him in the day, but he asks to try his luck” mummy you are pretty, I love big boobies, can I have the helicopter, where’s Daddy, I want Daddy, daddy coming home now? I want to go to bed, I want medicine, I want, I want, I want, I want.

OMG seriously it’s non stop. bantering on and on and on.

Meanwhile poor Eliza is following me around like a stray dog asking “what does snake begin with? what about handbag, or shops, or horse, how do you spell horse, Jerry has made an absoulte mess of of the lounge mummy,you need to clean it, I’m tired, I’m hungry, Jerry hit me, Jerry slobbered on me, Can I watch TV? Can we go out, can we have the iPad,  why are you pregnant, Can Teddy come out now? I want Daddy, is Daddy coming home yet?

Normally I chug along happily today I am amazed social services didn’t knock on the door, maybe Monday I am sure at times I sounded like a fish wife. I know I yelled a lot today mostly “JERRY JUST LEAVE ME ALONE FOR 5 MINUTES, IF YOU WANT A DRINK I NEED TO PUT YOU DOWN”

Tonight while cooking dinner I actually just screamed out loud for anger management. Mental note

*new house does not have double glazing

Good night and good weekend to you all 😀

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Some of you might remember this post. Well I never went to the 30 week appointment. I am having a very good pregnancy probably my most uneventful to date.

Anyway I notified hospital of me not coming to the 30 week appointment. Three weeks ago I got a letter saying ” we know you want a c/section at 41 weeks could you please tell us where you’d like your care” I thought that was a little odd, but was given an email address to use so I emailed them saying that was correct and I’d like my care to continue where it was. I never heard anything back.

Then due to living in a black hole, I got a voicemail from the supervisor of midwifes asking me to call. I did. She told me that I didn’t come to the 30 week appointment, Correct I said. Why? She asked. Erm lets see shall we…

There was no point. – I said

Right OK she replied.

So could we make another appointment for you to see the consultant at 36 weeks?

For some stupid, stupid reason at 5.30pm on a Friday night I said “yes”

Now over the weekend the phone call played over and over in my mind, there was a long chat about other things too. I was anxious as anything about this impending appointment and went on and on about it to my husband. Then Sunday came and I had made up my mind and I wasn’t going. Knowing full well the intentions of the appointment.

The intentions are in my eyes to convince me to have a c/section at 39 weeks. As I said in my previous post that isn’t going to happen. My babies come late. This one might not who know’s it might come at 38 weeks but that isn’t by choice right.

So Monday first thing I call the midwife and get her name wrong. Great start LOL

I tell her that I’m not going to come to the appointment. Oh by the way she said “bring a support person, you might need them” obviously it wasn’t going to be a supportive meeting for me.

Why have you decided that Nataliya?

Because, I said I am not having a cesarean at 39 weeks and I know exactly what that appointment is about it’s about bullying me into having my baby then.

In her words “Not really bullying, more persuading you to have the baby at 39 weeks”

So that was the intention of the meeting!

And then came the best bit, the lamest reasoning of all.

It’s just that you want to have your baby at 41 weeks and the problem is that the theatres are under going a refurbishment and really when you want to have your cesarean it doesn’t fit in.

Guess what lady. THAT is not my problem, THAT is YOUR problem. I pointed out I worked in a OR for 7 years and that I know slotting in people unless emergencies was hard. But I am not risking my baby’s health because it doesn’t fit in, and to be completly honest, I can’t believe that is the reason. The actual reason is, I am a stubborn informed woman and I won’t be bullied. And they don’t like that.

Informed, yes why you are Nataliya, in fact you are extremely well informed and understand the system well.” She said.

So it’s all tactics, it’s all about bullying women into things they don’t want, making them think this is the best thing for them, when in fact it’s actually about doing what the consultants want and making sure all their little boxes are ticked and their 25 year old policy is fulfilled. None of which is my problem, and it’s my human right to have my baby where and how I like. This isn’t to say if I had a obvious problem like a low laying placenta which I did have, but scans since have shown it’s moved. That I wouldn’t follow medical advice. I am not a DR and I respect DR’s who look after people and not themselves.

She said “I can see I can’t persuade you (there’s that word again) to have your baby at 39 weeks, so we shall talk at the end of your pregnancy at 40 weeks.

I pointed out that, the end of my pregnancy with my 2nd child ended at 42 weeks and that was only because I physically gave up and said cut him out!

So in all honesty the end of my pregnancy could be 42 weeks, and if she’d like to speak to the VBAC clinic that they would also confirm this and they didn’t have an issue when I spoke to them. And that pregnancies can go 2 weeks either side, so in fact 42 weeks is normal it’s just a lot of women don’t get that far, for various reasons.

I think by this point she was sick of me and said that she’d speak to me again later LOL

Why? Why does it have to be this way? Especially when everything is fine with me, Health wise and baby wise.

What ever I won’t be pregnant for ever, The baby will come out, he’ll probably be 15lbs and rip me front to back but it will be over 😀

On a quick side note

if you are pregnant and need support contact aims and also look up yahoo vbac support groups they are great 🙂

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A few weeks ago I had a real whinge on twitter about my lack of sleeping and how I was really uncomfortable at night, I then got a very sweet message from the girls at Dreamgenii offering me a chance to try out the pillow! OH YES PLEASE I said!

As soon as it arrived I wanted to go to bed, I was in fact exhausted but I had ZERO chance of getting a nap, I was in the middle of packing a house and looking at the children. A early night beckoned and I was swaddled up in the pillow by 10pm and for some work of god, Jeremiah slept through the night, something he has only recently started to do. so I got 7 hours sleep I woke up and felt like I was 18 again. Until I heard 2 small children.

Several nights in and I was starting to be much more comfortable and sleeping longer periods due to actually being comfy.

Pros

  • It is compact and can be put away easily if you are one to have your room all neat and tidy.
  • It doesn’t interfere with your other bed mate unlike another pillow I have which is like a bolster
  • It has a pillow slip which is washed like any other
  • The back support is great
  • I’m sure I will use it as a nursing pillow as well

Cons

  • I wish it was just a tad firmer especially between the knees and back support I’m talking a tad more!

Overall I really like using it and think if you are heavily pregnant or just starting to get restless at night then get one!

You can order them from the Dreamgenii Website and they retail at £44.99

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That little pig has a lot to answer for, or maybe I have a lot to answer for.

There is no shortage of TV in this house, we have 500 movies to watch at least 200 of those are for children or child orientated such as Ponyo and other studio Ghibli.

I use the TV as a babysitter I am very happy to admit that. I am a stay at home mum of two children. I run my own business and look after my husbands company and I work my ass off keeping things homely and cooking meals. I like any other mother stick the TV on to give myself a break, to get a bit of down time.

Jerry isn’t really into watching the TV at all, he’d much rather be playing with helicopters or hitting things like me or Eliza. Eliza however LOVES the TV. Jerry loves Peppa Pig and Ponyo and it ends there.

I closely monitor what they view. There isn’t a show they watch that I haven’t watched a few times to be happy they can view it. We have sky but I don’t let them watch Nick Jr mostly because it’s full of commercials. I don’t really care that the kids ask for things, but I find it annoying.

So when we were moving house and I was busy as anything packing, Peppa Pig was on A LOT I am talking hours. I just kept putting a different one in, and pressing repeat. It made my life easier and it’s harmless, right?

Except when you are 3-4 years old you are easily influenced. My husband and I are under the impression we are our children’s biggest influencers currently. Of course I assume once Eliza starts school in September this will change.

Eliza started doing this really annoying thing of saying “you’re not my friend” and blowing a raspberry in her brothers face. Now maybe some will say I take things to seriously, but for me the words are easily dealt with the raspberry blowing I find hugely offensive and I will not put up with it. Of course Jerry is a copycat and now he does the same unaware of what he’s really saying or the action following it.

I was racking my brains on where Eliza had picked up this horrible sentence and action. She is home with me all the time. Except one music class, her only other influences are the TV. So I watched through the DVD’s and found out Peppa pig has a quarrel with her friend and says and does the above. Now the moral is they say sorry and make up, this part hasn’t gone into my children’s minds only the rude bit.

When my kids get into conflict depending on how I am feeling lol most of the time I get down to their level and I ask Eliza to speak properly in her grown up voice to tell Jerry exactly what her problem is and resolve it. I give her the words to use such as “Tell him you don’t like him doing that” “Tell him to stop” crying and whinging doesn’t do anything but make things worse. Eliza is highly emotional and screams and cries over anything (no idea where she gets that from) Jerry is aggressive pushes and bites. I know they say to let children resolve as much as possible on their own but seriously when hair is being pulled and teeth marks and one is pushing the other, you got to step in!

Eliza is now very upset when Jerry shouts at her “you’re not my friend” and blows a raspberry in her face. Of course he’s seen it on the TV but Eliza picked it up and started to use it. Now it’s the latest insult being thrown around and my god it’s hard to break and for that very reason Peppa pig is banned until I can screen each episode and know exactly which ones don’t contain things like this. I understand the moral of the story but at 4 years old it’s somehow harder to put all together, and know they had a fight and it was resolved. At four years old she doesn’t have the reasoning skills to establish what follows.

I may be a fuddy duddy but I do expect a level of respect in my children for each other yes even at this age. I believe guiding them to resolve things peacefully and calmly is better than screaming and shouting, this is not to say I personally don’t scream and shout I do daily mostly around 4pm when  I am barely able to stay awake and they are quite literally at each others throats. Some days I feel all I do is shout and I hate that. And I know that is far more influencing that a TV show.

What are your thoughts on shows such as Peppa Pig and others, do you think “kids will be kids” they would do it anyway? How easily influenced is your child.

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That little pig has a lot to answer for, or maybe I have a lot to answer for.

There is no shortage of TV in this house, we have 500 movies to watch at least 200 of those are for children or child orientated such as Ponyo and other studio Ghibli.

I use the TV as a babysitter I am very happy to admit that. I am a stay at home mum of two children. I run my own business and look after my husbands company and I work my ass off keeping things homely and cooking meals. I like any other mother stick the TV on to give myself a break, to get a bit of down time.

Jerry isn’t really into watching the TV at all, he’d much rather be playing with helicopters or hitting things like me or Eliza. Eliza however LOVES the TV. Jerry loves Peppa Pig and Ponyo and it ends there.

I closely monitor what they view. There isn’t a show they watch that I haven’t watched a few times to be happy they can view it. We have sky but I don’t let them watch Nick Jr mostly because it’s full of commercials. I don’t really care that the kids ask for things, but I find it annoying.

So when we were moving house and I was busy as anything packing, Peppa Pig was on A LOT I am talking hours. I just kept putting a different one in, and pressing repeat. It made my life easier and it’s harmless, right?

Except when you are 3-4 years old you are easily influenced. My husband and I are under the impression we are our children’s biggest influencers currently. Of course I assume once Eliza starts school in September this will change.

Eliza started doing this really annoying thing of saying “you’re not my friend” and blowing a raspberry in her brothers face. Now maybe some will say I take things to seriously, but for me the words are easily dealt with the raspberry blowing I find hugely offensive and I will not put up with it. Of course Jerry is a copycat and now he does the same unaware of what he’s really saying or the action following it.

I was racking my brains on where Eliza had picked up this horrible sentence and action. She is home with me all the time. Except one music class, her only other influences are the TV. So I watched through the DVD’s and found out Peppa pig has a quarrel with her friend and says and does the above. Now the moral is they say sorry and make up, this part hasn’t gone into my children’s minds only the rude bit.

When my kids get into conflict depending on how I am feeling lol most of the time I get down to their level and I ask Eliza to speak properly in her grown up voice to tell Jerry exactly what her problem is and resolve it. I give her the words to use such as “Tell him you don’t like him doing that” “Tell him to stop” crying and whinging doesn’t do anything but make things worse. Eliza is highly emotional and screams and cries over anything (no idea where she gets that from) Jerry is aggressive pushes and bites. I know they say to let children resolve as much as possible on their own but seriously when hair is being pulled and teeth marks and one is pushing the other, you got to step in!

Eliza is now very upset when Jerry shouts at her “you’re not my friend” and blows a raspberry in her face. Of course he’s seen it on the TV but Eliza picked it up and started to use it. Now it’s the latest insult being thrown around and my god it’s hard to break and for that very reason Peppa pig is banned until I can screen each episode and know exactly which ones don’t contain things like this. I understand the moral of the story but at 4 years old it’s somehow harder to put all together, and know they had a fight and it was resolved. At four years old she doesn’t have the reasoning skills to establish what follows.

I may be a fuddy duddy but I do expect a level of respect in my children for each other yes even at this age. I believe guiding them to resolve things peacefully and calmly is better than screaming and shouting, this is not to say I personally don’t scream and shout I do daily mostly around 4pm when  I am barely able to stay awake and they are quite literally at each others throats. Some days I feel all I do is shout and I hate that. And I know that is far more influencing that a TV show.

What are your thoughts on shows such as Peppa Pig and others, do you think “kids will be kids” they would do it anyway? How easily influenced is your child.

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